I started knitting a baby hat thanks to my friend Sara, and this helpful knitting site. Brian and I also got to see what it was like to be around Sara's 2-year-old, Nora, who is funny and beautiful--and quite a handful. It made us realize that parenthood is nowhere in the near future for us. Oh my god, she needed all of our attention all the time--she asked a bazillion questions and always wanted to show us everything she was doing (Watch me eat my breakfast, etc.) Very cute, but very tiring!
I missed blogging--I didn't realize how helpful it is to sit down once a day and journal in one form or another. So, I welcome myself back with a two-parted Sunday Scribblings:
Fortune Cookies
Part 1
I hate, hate, hate how fortune cookies now aren't so much about giving fortunes as giving advice. "Friends are the richest treasure." As if I needed a fortune cookie to explain that. I want a cookie note to tell me when I'll be rich, or when a random annoyance will befall me. Shoud I buy a lotto ticket tonight? Should I bring an umbrella tomorrow? These are the things I need a fortune cookie to tell me.
Part 2
I remember taping fortunes I liked to the inside of my locker in high school. They hung next to cut outs of Luke Perry (of 90210 fame) and other things that meant so much to be then but now I can't recall. It's been that long. Ten years, exactly. In fact, my 10-year reunion is coming up. I wasn't going to be able to go because it was originally schedule for next weekend, when I have a friend's wedding. But it got postponed to November, which I'm happy about. Though Brian won't be able to come because he's going to a mystery writer's conference. (I won't claim that I inspired him to take a shot at fiction, but I'm awfully proud of him for doing so!)
I haven't been very good at keeping in touch with high school friends. Staying up in Boston (where I went to college) is part of it, but more than that is the fact that by the end of high school I didn't feel all that connected to most of the 175 people sitting on stage with me at graduation. The one friend who I truly thought would be in my life forever isn't at the moment. Part of me hopes we'll talk things out before the reunion. Another part of me knows that we're very different people than we were back then. Maybe it's better to have a more Zen outlook and let people go out of your life when they need to.
But it does make me sad to think that someone who I once considered a sister could forget about me, could write me off as someone she once shared a life with and who now only warrants a (belated) birthday card every year.
7 comments:
I am just about the opposite. I have a lot of friends from high school (we all grew up together), and virtually none from college. And in a few weeks, is my 30th reunion from grad school, and I am going for the first time. I have kept up with only a few of those friends. I look forward to it with fun and anticipation, and a little anxiety.
I agree - if they're going to write messages in cookies, at least they should be more creative! As for high school reunions, they're way overrated.
I didn't quite make it to a school reunion earlier this year, they're not such a tradition in the UK someone just randomly organised it (we finished high school 12 years ago). I think I agree with the Zen thing that people come and go in your life and that it's better to move on. You no longer have the common bond which held you together and your needs in terms of friendship change. But what do I know!
Kids are cute but tiring. LOL Don't wait too long because it is a tiring process at any age. LOL Enjoy your ten year and good luck hubby :)
Loved reading your post. Yeah, kids can suck the life right out of you, but I wouldn't trade mine for the world.
Too bad about your friend. Maybe you can find your way back to each other. If not, that's okay too. I'm a firm believer that some friends will only be in your life for a certain period of time--until it's time to meet someone new.
Great post and good to hear that you had some good R & R time - even with the two-year old!
I loved my reunions. Just went to my 20th this summer. Make sure you don't have any expectations and they are quite amusing. You'll probably find some rich material for your writing there! (Check my July archives if you want to read the post I wrote about my 20th.)
I really love where the fortune cookie prompt took you and I completely agree that the bad advice isn't what we're looking for in a fortune cookie.
My take on the old friends thing is that they're great, and sometimes reunions put us back in touch, but for the most part there is a reason we grew apart, and the friends that I have made and continue to make in my adult life are people who I have a lot more in common with. Go and have fun!
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