I think change is wonderful. It can be scary, but honestly, how boring would life be if it weren't constantly changing? And to take that one step further, how boring would you be if you weren't constantly changing? Life is all about taking on new challenges, and, what's harder for me, allowing yourself to fail.
There is a great article in this month's Yoga Journal about the concept of starting over, and how when you want to make a change in your life, big or small, you have to allow yourself to start over as many times as it takes until the change sticks. This attitude really helps me (and maybe other perfectionists out there?) because when I realize I didn't stick with my plan, I can allow myself to notice it, and then start over. So after I don't go to the gym for four days, I don't wallow in the fact and get down. I just say, today I'm starting over, and then go. Ditto for my more cerebral goals, which I find the hardest to keep, such as stay in the moment, not judging myself, and allowing my feelings to be no matter how much I don't want to feel them.
4 comments:
I hear you - I am very very hard on myself and I tend to think that if I ever falter on a goal that it's all over and I may as well forget about it as I have failed.
I am trying to be kinder to myself, more gentle. I will keep in mind the suggestion of knowing that to truly make change you must be willing to start over as many times as it takes.
Like the Japanese proverb says - fall down seven times, get up eight.
Happy holidays.
you have to allow yourself to start over as many times as it takes until the change sticks...
thanks very much for this!
I love the idea of "starting over as many times as it takes." What a relief for my inner perfectionist!
Great post :)
I totally agree about never changing being boring.....
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