tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post4766551629655138110..comments2023-11-03T05:14:20.044-04:00Comments on Writer Bug: Sunday Scribbilings: HeroWriter Bughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18332064105213167179noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-85970210988448900292006-11-25T10:19:00.000-05:002006-11-25T10:19:00.000-05:00I think we buy way too quickly into the myth that ...I think we buy way too quickly into the myth that everyone has parents who love them unconditionally and who would sacrifice a bag of potato chips for their children's sake. <br /><br />I don't think we'd be afraid of feeling whiney if we weren't under the impression that the "natural" condition of families was something that looks like a Rockwell moment.<br /><br />(and just because I can't help but say it: it's absurd to accept that we should have to "fix" these things or "bridge gaps" or any other goodwill tactic that will make our lives fairy tales. Sometimes it's best to accept that we are human. So are they :-) ) <br /><br />Just because someone else "has it worse" than you, doesn't mean you don't have the right to your feelings. Give yourself a break!<br /><br />Oh- oh, this (&%¤# soapbox. It's like stuck to my feet or something!ren powell https://www.blogger.com/profile/15593358547415514500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-89516944601227609132006-11-20T13:50:00.000-05:002006-11-20T13:50:00.000-05:00Thanks, Bug, for your comment on my post. Yours is...Thanks, Bug, for your comment on my post. Yours is a very brave post. It feels a little scary being honest about our feelings, doesn't it? But if we try to hide them, they never get resolved. Sounds like you're well on your way to resolution. If you journal, you might journal your fears and share them with your mom, when you can. She may even share hers with you, too, bringing greater understanding between you. Thanks for sharing; your honesty is encouragement for the rest of us. --RobinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-88699938002062968352006-11-20T10:31:00.000-05:002006-11-20T10:31:00.000-05:00Thank you for such an honest, thought provoking po...Thank you for such an honest, thought provoking post. I can relate to it on many levels. My ex-husband suffers from mental illness and we were just talking on Friday night about how he finds it so difficult to fully relate to others and our children because of his own self-image. I can also relate to the struggles that mothers and daughters go through.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01569351612820181636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-59826911018570042562006-11-20T04:28:00.000-05:002006-11-20T04:28:00.000-05:00Intimacy is a very important element in all relati...Intimacy is a very important element in all relationships. It’s certainly not hard to understand the void you feel, I often felt that same emptiness with my mother. The consolation is having a daughter whom I share so much emotional intimacy with, making up for that surly relationship with my mother.Giggleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11713143985984314202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-51354348385253502512006-11-19T17:53:00.000-05:002006-11-19T17:53:00.000-05:00We all have issues with our mothers and can identi...We all have issues with our mothers and can identify with much of what you've written. Very honest post.paris parfaithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457437124988976587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-74275093968218731192006-11-19T11:03:00.000-05:002006-11-19T11:03:00.000-05:00Thanks everyone! I'm glad my post wasn't taken to ...Thanks everyone! I'm glad my post wasn't taken to be whiney, which is what I was afraid of. Overall, I had a wonderful childhood (esp compared to lots of other peoples') so complaining can feel odd.Writer Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18332064105213167179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-25958757485872545122006-11-19T10:56:00.000-05:002006-11-19T10:56:00.000-05:00Bug, thank you for your honest post. Navigating th...Bug, thank you for your honest post. Navigating the mother-daughter relationship can me tricky. Hope your Thanksgiving is better than you expect, and maybe you can resolve a few issues with your mom.Januaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13036651950996873368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-34993783977102005772006-11-19T02:12:00.000-05:002006-11-19T02:12:00.000-05:00Hey bug, I think you know from my previous posts I...Hey bug, I think you know from my previous posts I can relate to Moms With Issues. You may eventually start to feel relief by writing about it. I think that's what we have to do. It's your job as a writer to hit those places. Keep being brave.Repeaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958922007263367129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-1053144358180783632006-11-19T01:40:00.000-05:002006-11-19T01:40:00.000-05:00Thoughtprovoking and honest. Hit a chord with me b...Thoughtprovoking and honest. Hit a chord with me because there are things here which I am trying to work through with my daughter. Thanks for being so open.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08136225187552117043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-26090646687185749762006-11-18T22:26:00.000-05:002006-11-18T22:26:00.000-05:00This is a very brave post, and it touches my heart...This is a very brave post, and it touches my heart on lots of levels. As a mother myself, I feel sad for your mom, knowing she most likely wanted to be the kind of mother you needed, but just didn't quite know how to connect with you. And, as a daughter, I also understand how much you wish she was more in tune with your emotional needs. It sounds like you're working hard to bridge this gap, and I hope it becomes easier for you as time goes on. And, for sure, your experience will have a positive impact on your relationship with your own children.<br /><br />(On a purely selfish level, the characters in the novel I'm working on for NaNoWriMo are going through a similar situation, so I appreciate your viewpoint and the additional insight.)<br /><br />Thanks for sharing so honestly and openly.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14623887166087444590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-7916283410344518152006-11-18T22:05:00.000-05:002006-11-18T22:05:00.000-05:00Thanks TI! I was slightly afraid that I'd be heckl...Thanks TI! I was slightly afraid that I'd be heckled in the comments. We'll see I guess...Writer Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18332064105213167179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30540321.post-86553029563644222012006-11-18T22:02:00.000-05:002006-11-18T22:02:00.000-05:00Bug, that's a really honest post about your relati...Bug, that's a really honest post about your relationship with your mother. I can identify. Thanks.TIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11404607872558389013noreply@blogger.com